Obituary vs. Death Note: What Are the Key Differences?

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Oct 30, 2023

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obituary vs death note

Obituary vs. Death Note: What Are the Key Differences?

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Oct 30, 2023

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Obituary vs. Death Note: What Are the Key Differences?

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Oct 30, 2023

Trustworthy is an intelligent digital vault that protects and optimizes your family's information so that you can save time, money, and enjoy peace of mind. Learn more from our webinar recording.

obituary vs death note

Obituary vs. Death Note: What Are the Key Differences?

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Oct 30, 2023

Trustworthy is an intelligent digital vault that protects and optimizes your family's information so that you can save time, money, and enjoy peace of mind. Learn more from our webinar recording.

obituary vs death note

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Losing a loved one is challenging, and with grief comes responsibilities like writing an obituary or death note. Which one should you write, and what are the differences between the two? 

An obituary differs from a death note in that it’s more personal. It’s written as a form of tribute to the deceased. A death note is a public service announcement informing people of someone’s passing. With this guide, you can choose which to use confidently.

Key Takeaways

  • An obituary is a personal tribute to the deceased and includes important information on funeral or memorial details. 


  • A death note is a public service announcement that typically includes general details on the deceased. 


  • The death note and obituary differ in purpose, content, tone and cost. It’s essential to choose the one that aligns most with what you’re looking for. 

What is an Obituary? 

what is an obituary

An obituary is a written announcement telling people someone has passed away. It includes details about the deceased. Think of an obituary as a tribute to their life, family and accomplishments.

When writing an obituary, you will need to include information like: 

  • The date of death 

  • Details about the funeral or memorial. This will include the date, time, and any special requests from the family or the deceased.

  • A summary of their life. This can include accomplishments, a list of friends or family and even pictures.

  • Thanks to certain people or donations received 

There is no right or wrong way to write an obituary for your loved one. This holds true for how long the content should be and when to post it. There is no set time to post the obituary. We recommend posting it within a week of your loved one’s passing and with enough time before the funeral or memorial. 

You can share your written obituary online on websites and social media while using traditional channels like newspapers, church newsletters and alumni publications. 

What is a Death Note?

what is a death note

A death note is a short announcement to the public informing them of a person’s passing. It’s usually a general notice with just a few sentences. 

When writing the death note, you should include the following information: 

  • The full name of the deceased 

  • Date of death 

  • Details about the funeral or memorial 

There is no right or wrong time to share it. However, you may want to wait at least 24 hours to allow the family to grieve and process the passing before notifying the public. 

You can post the death note online on websites or social media, and in newspapers and newsletters. Sometimes, the local court, estate attorney, and funeral home can share the death notice. 

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The courts and attorneys also share a death notice if they’re looking for long-lost beneficiaries.

Obituary vs. Death Note Differences

While they have some similarities, key differences exist between an obituary and a death note. 

Purpose 

While both the notice and obituary share the news of your loved one’s passing, the death note is more of a general service announcement. 

An obituary is more than that. It’s a tribute to the person’s life. It typically includes more personal details about the deceased and is a way of honoring them.

Examples of personal details to include in an obituary are stories, hobbies, passions and personal characteristics.

Content 

The death notice only includes facts about the deceased. It typically has the who, when and where. It’s between three and five sentences at most. 

The obituary is a much longer announcement. It includes a short biography of the deceased with an average length of around 200 words. 

You can choose to include interesting facts about your loved one. These include their membership in clubs or groups, a religious organization, and even something they enjoyed, like cooking or a hobby. Some people write about the deceased person’s character or share wisdom they learned from them.

It’s worth noting the obituary should be respectful to the deceased person.

Tone 

Death notes have more of a formal and neutral tone, as they are just an announcement accompanied by facts. 

The tone for an obituary has a lot more options. You may want to choose a tone that captures your loved one’s essence. It could be light, humorous, reflective or even a somber, more honest tone. 

Cost

Obituaries cost more since they often include a picture of the deceased and more words. Death notes are less expensive and, in some cases, free. Expect to pay at least $200 for an obituary in most cases.

However, an obituary may sometimes be free when published online or in certain community newspapers offering complimentary obituary services. 

Obituary vs Death Notice Similarities

There are some common features between an obituary and a death notice.

Announcement of Passing 

Both an obituary and death note share the news of a loved one’s passing. They’re typically shared within a week of the deceased passing. 

Funeral Details 

The funeral details are similar in an obituary and death notice, as they include the service's date, time and location. An obituary may include a little bit more information on the service, like what guests should bring or wear.  

Publication 

Both the obituary and a death notice are published in the same places. These include newspapers, websites, church newsletters and social media.

Death notices and obituaries are not just limited to newspapers and newsletters from where the deceased was from. You can share these notices to places where they spent a lot of time and even where they went on vacation. 

Note that most funeral homes and newspapers will need to verify the deceased has passed away by the family presenting a death certificate.

To obtain a death certificate, you need certain documents. Luckily, Trustworthy can help you with this. We organize family documents for you with our Family Operating System, which you can try for free.

Respectful Intent

A death note is more factual, but it will also use a respectful tone like an obituary. 

Both of these are also typically serious in nature to respectfully acknowledge the passing of the loved one. 

How to Choose Between an Obituary and Death Notice

how to choose between an obituary and death notice

There are some factors to consider to help you make your choice. 

Consider things like privacy. You may want to use a death notice if the family prefers a more intimate and private funeral or memorial. Sometimes, when unusual or uncomfortable reasons cause a death, family members want privacy. 

Other times, if the deceased was very involved in their community, an obituary is a better choice, as you can share the life they had. 

Cost is key, too. If you’re seeking to keep the costs low, a death notice is generally a less expensive option, as there are fewer words to publish. 

Obituaries can range anywhere from $100 to over $1000.

You can also opt to publish both an obituary and a death note. For instance, if you’re looking for a way to pay homage to the deceased and send out an open invitation to the funeral or memorial, both make sense.

If you wish, you can publish the death notice first with details about the funeral or memorial service and publish the obituary after the service.     

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Is it disrespectful not to have an obituary?

If the family members want to keep their privacy surrounding the details of the death, it’s not considered disrespectful. Also, if the deceased was estranged from the family, a death note is usually chosen over an obituary. 

How do you end a death note?

Many people end the notice with information about the funeral or memorial service. This could be a date, time and location, or a specific instruction to the public. 

What information should you never include in an obituary?

For safety and security reasons, do not put the physical address of where the deceased lived or the full names of their survivors. Identity theft is a major concern when sharing personal information with the public. To stay safe, use first names only.  

Insurance Advisor, Christen Losey, advises:

“Consider setting up an obituary alert to monitor any misuse of the deceased's identity.”

In addition to personal information, never include extremely personal or embarrassing details, or anything hurtful or damaging about the deceased.  

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