Writing a eulogy for a loved one is a daunting task. Given the solemnity of the occasion, you might ask yourself, "Can a eulogy be funny?"
When including humor, you want to be sure to follow a few specific guidelines. We’ll walk you through how to keep your eulogy lighthearted and provide some respectful but funny examples to inspire you.
Finding the Right Tone for a Eulogy
Q: When can a eulogy be funny?
A: A eulogy can include humor as long as it’s respectful and appropriate for the moment. While eulogies are naturally solemn, gentle humor can bring warmth to the room, help people breathe a little easier, and remind everyone of the joy the person brought into others’ lives.
Q: What type of humor is appropriate in a eulogy?
A: Humor is appropriate when it adds humanity rather than detracting from the moment. If a story or line highlights a real trait of the person — their wit, habits, quirks, or way of seeing the world — it can be a meaningful part of the tribute.
Humor works best when it reflects the personality of the person being remembered and feels natural rather than forced.
In fact, shared laughter can help people process grief and connect through memory. Physiotherapist Tracey Hawthorn of Kelowna, B.C., notes: "You don't want a person to focus on their pain because that's what they do all the time, so you want to find other things, and humor is a good one."
The key is balance. Humor should never overshadow respect.
Q: What kind of humor works best in a eulogy?
A: Subtle, story-based humor tends to work best. Rather than telling jokes, focus on:
Light irony.
Gentle observations.
Funny moments that reveal character.
Familiar phrases the person was known for.
If you hesitate or worry that something might offend, it’s usually best to leave it out.
Tips for Writing a Funny (and Respectful) Eulogy
Q: How should I think about the audience?
A: Eulogies are often heard by people of different ages, backgrounds, and relationships to the deceased. Humor should feel inclusive, not inside-baseball or divisive.
It's essential to remember who will be hearing your eulogy. The audience will often consist of family, friends, and colleagues of the deceased. Be sensitive to their feelings and relationships with the departed, as well as their cultural and religious backgrounds.
If you’re unsure about a line, ask a close family member for advice.
Q: Where can I find good humorous material?
A: Stories are your best source. Talk to friends, family members, and colleagues and ask for moments that made them laugh.
These shared memories often feel more genuine — and safer — than invented humor.
Q: Should I include humor if the person was naturally funny?
A: Yes. If the person was known for their humor, wit, or playful nature, acknowledging that can feel especially fitting. Referencing their jokes, habits, or humor helps people recognize the person they knew.
Q: How do I balance humor with respect?
A: Remember that you’re delivering a eulogy, not a performance. Humor should support the tribute, not compete with it. One effective approach is to frame humor within gratitude, love, or admiration.
If a moment draws laughter and affection, it’s on the right track.
Q: How does delivery matter when using humor?
A: Tone and pacing make a big difference. Practicing ahead of time can help ensure your humor lands gently and doesn’t sound sarcastic, rushed, or dismissive.
10 Funny (and Respectful) Eulogy Examples
Example 1
Anyone who knew my dad knew how much he loved practical jokes. I remember when I was 12 years old, and the entire family gathered around for Christmas. Thinking it would be a good idea, Dad decided to [tell the funny story].
Example 2
We're gathered here today to celebrate the life of a man who was such a devoted Dallas Cowboys fan, we used to joke he was born holding a football in one hand and a beer in the other.
Example 3
I remember the first time I met Alice. I was at this book club meet-up. I didn't know anyone there, and I hadn't read the book either. Alice, who was sitting across from me, must have noticed how unhappy I was and mouthed [insert joke]. From then on, we were best friends.
Example 4
Soccer practice will never be the same without Ben. Rain or shine, he would be there with a smile and joke. "Come on boys, let's [Insert phrase]," he'd always say.
Example 5
If John were here today, he'd take one look around the room and say [insert funny line]. I can't recount how many times I heard that joke in the time I had the honor of knowing him.
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Example 6
I'd like to finish off my eulogy today with a quote that reminds me of Adam, and if you knew Adam, too, you'll see why. [Insert funny or relevant quote]
Example 7
We'll all miss many things about Sarah. From her famous cakes, her infectious laugh and even her singing. You know what I mean if you've heard her at karaoke!
Example 8
John was never good at sports, but that never stopped him from having a good time on the golf course. I'll always savor those afternoons spent with him on the green, especially that one time we [insert funny story].
Example 9
I remember one night, Mark and I were sitting outside when he turned to look at me and, out of the blue, said, "Anna, at my funeral, can you please [insert fun request]?"
Example 10
Ladies and gentlemen, I am so honored to stand before you and pay tribute to my father, Greg. Much to my mother's displeasure, he was always a bit of a prankster. I'll always remember [tell a funny story].
Mistakes to Avoid When Using Humor in a Eulogy
Q: What kind of humor should I avoid?
A: Avoid crude, harmful, or tasteless humor. This includes jokes about death itself, the circumstances of the passing, religion, cultural differences, or anything that could embarrass or hurt the family.
Q: Can a eulogy have too much humor?
A: Yes. Too much humor can make it hard for the audience to connect emotionally and may come across as dismissive of the moment. Humor should be a seasoning, not the main course.
Q: Why is joking at someone’s expense a bad idea?
A: Humor that puts the deceased or their family in a negative light often lands as disrespectful rather than funny. Even affectionate teasing can feel uncomfortable in a memorial setting.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What is a good opening line for a eulogy?
A: A simple and effective opening is to introduce yourself and explain your relationship to the person who passed away.
Q: How long is too long for a eulogy?
A: Speaking for more than about 10 minutes is generally considered too long. Shorter eulogies are often more impactful and easier for listeners to absorb.
Q: How can I read a eulogy without breaking down?
A: Take slow breaths, pause when needed, and read at a measured pace. It’s OK to show emotion — the audience understands — but practicing ahead of time can help you stay grounded.
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